"America" must PAY. . .

http://elections.foxnews.com/2008/05/29/at-obamas-church-chicago-minister-says-clinton-felt-white-entitlement/


Something from the Hinterland. . .some sort of threat or sanction from another country? Nope, the person who is responsibile for the quote here is Obama's latest pastor problem, at his current church, and of course you can look up the speech on Youtube.

Yeah- that whole race speech is just so ridiculous- and while I feel for all of you who were duped into believing this guy was going to do anything constructive, you have to admit that the voice in your head was paying attention to what he was NOT saying, and you are not as shocked as you want to think.

What does that mean? That far from being cynical, we are actually CRITICAL thinkers. People who offer us things should expect to be scrutinized. Obama has made a run of it so far in equating that scrutiny with some some sort of racism, and even went so far to defend a position that in the context of the speech he was giving was hypocritical. Yes, the grandma speech, in which he played the race card, while calling for the race card to go away. . .for some races. . .is what I am talking about.

Race issues are going to continue to plague this country until a great deal of baggage and sacred cows are dealt with;

1. The default assumption that all whites are racist HAS to go away.
2. The default assumption that no Blacks can be racist or antisemitic HAS to go.
3. The hegemony on "victim" of injustice is not the sole right of any one group- and it cannot excuse contermporary behaviors and issues.
4. The goal of switching places, and making whites of today "pay" for the supposed "crimes" may be good for Michelle Obama who is finally "proud" of an America that is going to try to oppress the right color now. . .but for many people of many races, this is not a laudable goal.

This is just a start- but see, can you imagine any hopeful politician, of any race, telling people that their sacred cows of victimhood must go? That alone would lead to accusations of racism and insensitivity. . .game over.

Funny how all this started- I invited all the hopefuls to dinner during the primary- and wound up being labeled "a sad attempt from the Right" when I asked for more specific information about Obama's plan from one of his "people"

My son is probably going to vote for someone other than Obama, and he is disgusted by the turn of events that revealed what a weak man his first election hopeful turned out to be, unable to stand up for those lofty ideals, unable to respond to any questions WITHOUT whining, and when all else fails, blame racism!

He has jaded my son at 18 years old. . .

Cannot let it be. . .

This affront to all that is fair in Florida continues to just kill me. The autistic child voted out by his class at the insistence of his teacher. . .I cringe when I think of that child standing there, and how he must have felt, with those faces staring at him- and the fact that there appears to be NO indication that the "teacher" thought at all about potential pain and suffering. . .what, because he is autistic he cannot feel?

One of the most painful battles I fight is for my children's humanity, that basic right to just be accepted as members of the human race, and all of the perks that go with that, like a sense of respect and for an acknowledgement of their humanity- why is that so hard? If Precious has a bad day, family will ask us "what is wrong with him" to which the answer will usually be- he is having a bad day, just like any other 8 year old, he is not interested in what you are offering, he is refusing to do something, all very basic behaviors for kids.

With the dx of autism, that humanity default is not set- everything is autism related, and everything must be managed, from emotions to actions and motivations, there is never an unevaluated moment, some search is always conducted for the "cause" of whatever is going on. . .it simply CANNOT be that Precious is tired of school in May, or that he is not interested in homework. . .it cannot be THAT. . .because that would make this a human thing, not an autism thing. . .sheesh

We can pass all the laws we want, and ban every form of hate speech and discrimination- but insensitive Dillweeds like this "teacher" cannot be legislated, they cannot be mandated, they can only be reined in. . .and we will always have to have those reins in hand, never slack, in order to curb their tendency to deny our children of their rights to have completely autism free bad days and days off. . .and hold tight until we can pass them on to the next generation, for the exact same purpose. Yes, it sucks, and yes, I get so irrationally upset, but my fellow autistic patents, I have only one thing to say about this most recent event. . . .

Let's Ride!

Rainmom, an excellent driver

When did Rainmom get political?

Well, I have always been- and actually started my college education as a Political Science major- but it was very obvious that I was really meant and bent on Sociology. . .so

But my son KIA and watching him struggle to make sense of this process and the way the person he was so proud of has crumbled in his eyes, and the way KIA is as jaded about the process as he is. . .at 18 years old! That has angered me,and I am willing to bring it with great passion, I scare some of my fellow grad students. . .apparently I am intense when I am passionate, and I scare them. . .oh my!

So, with that out of the way, I bring you more Obama Orations of Oddity and Obfuscation

I call this one "Grandma was a racist, Grandpa and Uncle saved the Jews"

Full circle, huh Obama? Forget about how painful this posturing is. . .Hillary tried this and was MUCH better at the whole "I have always supported Jews, some of my best friends are Jews. . .thing. And she did not have to crush her grandma in order to prop up a racist father figure either, but whoa, Barak has brought a whole new understanding to this cesspool of a nomination process!
What, there were just SO many camps he got confused as to which one his relatives were at? Nice, I do not have that luxury, this is part of my family legacy, and it gets even worse when you look at my dad's family- they were in the path of the Einsatzgruppen, mobile slaughtering units, so they never made it to camps. But hey, Israel is there now, so no penalty no foul right. . .oh except the historic ties of Jews to Israel are called into question by people who claim Abraham as a part of their religion and rockets and random killings via guns or bombs are all a part of that Israeli life. . .but hey, AT least it is not a camp. . .right?
Sigh, this is such a pain to watch, at one of the most critical points of the process, the battle for who will even enter the ring continues, and while I do not understand what the hell Obama was thinking, I have to say, this Jew is really confused as to why now he is concerned about what Jews think?
His advisers are members of Hamas led organizations, are on record supporting suicide bombings, and fight against the rights of Israel as a country worthy of protecting her people. Jews were supposed to ignore the close ties of his pastor and NOI and Farrakhan, even after Wright gave the man a lifetime achievement award. . .and Jews were supposed to ignore it all. . .but what if they did not?
It appears we did not, we cannot bend that far, or we will break- so NOW he is worried about the Jewish vote. . .as he should be. . .McCain has the ability to pull things together and if he does go for Lieberman as VP? I will call it then!

For someone who was supposed to be about change, he is really doing a good job of going through the motions and having his "people" do the talking to save his sorry ass from his foot in mouth and truth in doubt "gaffes". . .which if he were Clinton would be called "lies" or "fabrications" hmmmm.

I do not doubt for 1 second that Obama used the Auschwitz camp deliberately- banking on its power as a symbol of the worst of the Shoah, the specter of all that went into this genocide. . .he used it the way some use the troops or the flag, he used it in order to shore up his position, and the less glamorous truth was denied, and here we go with the dance between reality and electability. . .Shonda!

I wish I could tell you this is rare

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,358956,00.html

But it is not! Now this year, and last year, the school that Precious goes to has been WONDERFUL! The teachers are some of the best people ever, and the kids in his class are first rate to him.

The principal however, is another story, if she could arrange it, she would have voted my son out of her school pronto. . .all for the good of other students, of COURSE. The needs of the many was her main argument, which was at complete odds with the stated policy of the school district, and well, commom decency. . .but I digress.

I had an idea for what was going on in my head, and it wound up coming out with this story- the past few days have really taken me back. . .and not in a good way!

One of the reasons that I have seldom verbalized, about why sociology holds so much of my interest is grounded in my childhood- more so than anything psychology ever could, in fact, if I had stayed in psych, who knows where I would be. . .

Sociology, the effects of many social factors allowed me to hope that the way I grew up did not define me in any way that I could not change, it allowed me to view life as progress, not lock step, and the effects of that realization made everything else possible, and close.

Yet, there are still challanges, like when a member of society who has reached adult age, but not maturity, calls my son a retard. . .then ummmm, something happens, I turn into white trash women inside, want to go Jerry Springer on her. . .inside. . .and I am amazed by that reaction in me, having convinced myself that I was beyond all of that, and mature. Guess not, because I ended up confronting her, and telling her, in front of her "crew" that I would not tolerate her language and that if she would be so kind as to concern herself with her own life and kids, that would be great. . .and we will see.

All in all, it was pretty calm. . .but inside? Wow, the Momma Bear LIVES!

Meeting with my chair today. . .start my prelims. . .I am hoping to graduate May 2010. . .I can do it. . .ask anyone who knows me!

Better get on the paper work!

Your kids will still be handing my kids fries through a Drive Through Window

on our way up to our Ski lodge-Good Will Hunting

So-

When do I get to spike the football and declare my kids raised? When will I ever take this to heart? Or will I always be the scrapping homeless girl with the crazy dad...will it matter?

As promised

Again with the comparison, all along the race line, between the heir apparents in both parties. But can such comparisons be made?
Can anyone in their right mind really say that the comments made by Hagee are anything CLOSE to those made by Wright? Hagee is an outsider to the campagin, Wright is the father figure that has now been thrown under the bus- which Obama refused to do in his "I have a race card to play" speech back in March. And the comparisons to Falwell post 9-11? PULEEEEEEZE with that shit! AGAIN none of those mentioned by the Obama camp as counterpoint to Wright were NEARLY as involved with McCain. . .get another point or risk being punked BIG TIME by the GOP next month!
Hillary as VP? Does anyone really think this will solidify the party? In case you missed it, with all the business as usual politics going on, Obama is for change. . .and has called Clinton the Old Guard, part of the problem. . .etc. HOW in the hell can people seriously believe this will help the cause, given his complete waffling these past few months?
If that happens, it could very well mean that we could just see the most visious battle yet. . .McCain's camp could lop their own words about EACH OTHER and never say another word. . .hello. . . .Edwards would be a better choice, shit Lieberman would be great, if McCain was not already going to pick him!

KIA is officially off Obama, as are the friends that were going to be for Obama, for the first time vote. . .about 25 kids. I am afraid to ask. . .what happens now!

Apologies to Rizzo

There are worse things I could do,
Than go to grad school for a year or two.
Even though the neighborhood thinks I'm snotty,
And selfish , and I suppose it could be true,
But there are worse things I could do.
I could flirt with the school principal,
Smile at him and bat my eyes.
Watch tv every night,
Make believe that I just might,
Watch an episode of American Idol without a fight.
That's a thing I'd never do.
I could stay home every night,
Wait around for Mr. Right.
Drink myself silly I just might,
Throw my life away, on a life with a man and
On a dream that won't come true, I chose a different way.
Instead of fighting for that doctoral degree.
I could hurt someone like me,
Out of spite or jealousy.
I dont steal and I dont lie,
But I can feel and I can cry.
A fact I'll bet you never knew.
But to cry in front of you,
That's the worse thing I could do.

Remarks about "retards"

So-

At what point are we "grown up" "mature" and how dependent is that status on those around us? I had thought that such questions were self evident, once you become.. . .older, a mom, or a parent, well. . .grown up and mature are just part of that, right?

Apparently not-

Some background- at the school Butter and Cocoa go to, there is a group of mothers who hang out and gossip long after the school day has begun. Their leader is a fake baked, loud and trashy (by trashy I mean screaming. . .um talking, about her nightly benders and how she measures how her day is going by how soon into the day she taps the booze frig, the one in the garage just for her booze, discusses the weather by how many beers she could/did consume before getting too cold etc.) in short, someone I have very little in common with, but live and let live.

After spring break, we were having a LOT of trouble getting Precious on the bus. He just did not want to go, and morning after moring, the bus would come and we would send it off- But for the last month, everything has been fine, and he has ridden the bus just fine.

Thursday- Trash Queen sees the bus coming and in her subtle as an air raid siren says "Why the FUCK does that bus even bother to come? I'll bet you all 50 bucks, 50 BUCKS that the retard will not get on the bus. . ." and then MY SON and I got to the curb and he got on the bus.

What did I do? Well, nothing criminal, but certainly not mature. . .so I am left to wonder just what goes into maturity. . .if not age, and how much depends on those around us?

Based on the situation- I am guesing a LOT of it depends on the people around us!

For the moms who miss the mark without missing the point

The Perfect Mother “ by Erma Bombeck

Everyone said Sharon was a terrific mother. Her neighbors said it. Sharon painted the inside of her garbage cans with enamel, grew her own vegetables, cut her own grass every week, made winter coats for the entire family from remnants, donated blood and baked Barbara Mandrell a doll cake for her birthday.
Her mother said it. Sharon drove her to the doctor’s when she had an appointment, color-coordinated the children’s clothes and put them in labeled drawers, laundered aluminum foil and used it again, planned family reunions, wrote her Congressman, cut everyone’s hair and knew her health insurance policy number by heart.
Her children’s teacher said it. She helped her children every night with their homework, delivered her son’s paper route when it rained, packed nutritious lunches with little raised faces on the sandwiches, was homeroom mother, belonged to five car pools and once blew up 234 balloons by herself for the seventh grade cotillion.
Her husband said it. Sharon washed the car when it rained, saved antifreeze from year to year, paid all the bills, arranged their social schedule, sprayed the garden for bugs, moved the hose during the summer, put the children on their backs at night to make sure they didn’t sleep on their faces, and once found a twelve-dollar error on a tax return filed by H & R Block.
Her best friend said it. Sharon build a bed out of scraps left over from the patio, crocheted a Santa Claus to cover the extra roll of toilet paper at Christmastime, washed fruit before her children ate it, learned to play the harpsichord, kept a Boston fern alive for a whole year, and when the group ate lunch out, Sharon always figured out who owed what.
Her minister said it. Sharon found time to read all the dirty books and campaign against them. She played guitar at evening services. She corresponded with a poor family in Guatemala…in SPANISH. She put together a cookbook to raise funds for a new coffee maker for the church. She collected door to door for all the health organizations. Sharon was one of those women blessed with a knack for being organized. She planned a “theme party” for the dog’s birthday, made her children elaborate Halloween costumes out of old grocery bags and her knots came out just right on the shoelaces when they broke. She put a basketball hoop over the clothes hanger as an incentive for good habits, started seedlings in a toilet paper spindle, and insulated their house with empty egg cartons, which everyone else threw away.

Sharon kept a schedule that would have brought any other women to her knees. Need twenty-five women to chaperone a party? Give the list to Sharon. Need a mother to convert the school library to the Dewey Decimal System? Call Sharon. Need someone to organize a block party, garage sale or a school festival? Get Sharon. Sharon was a SUPER MOM! Her gynecologist said it. Her butcher said it. Her tennis partner said it. Her children… Her children never said it.They spent a lot of time with Rick’s mother, who was always home with them and who ate cookies out of a box and played poker with them.

My Fresh new hell

Ahhhhh, Tuomos! Heart you!

So, yeah, nothing really bad, but these last few weeks have been just annoying and stressful as hell-

Muffin is slacking in school and the calls and letters form school are so grinding- when I try to talk to him about it, all I get is that he hates school and that all he needs is for school to be over. . .yeah, right. So everyday the same thing and I am so hoping camp will help him get to a better place self esteem wise.

KIA is never home, I guess that is pretty normal for a senior, and we are having a HUGE party in August with all of his friends so we are all getting the grounds ready, live music from his friend's band. . .too intense!

The school front was going so well. . .UNTIL the PAship got a bit rough. . .understatement of the DECADE. It was a spreadsheet from hell project and I was just MISERABLE for all of these last 2 weeks. . .get all my course work done and get slammed with waaaaaay more than 10 hours a week at the end. . .sheesh, kind of took the wind out of my sails. . .had looked forward to basking in the glory of being done. . .and this project ground me down!

So, the summer season begins next week, first concert of the summer season, going to see my obsession in 1 week. . . . .yuuuuuummmmmmy!

Spring 4.0

Yep- Got 4.0 this semester. . .what a way to end my coursework phase. . .ahhhhhhh

But I do go on. . . .

So- the semester is pretty much OVER and wow I have my prelim outline all set. . .Jewish community of the city, non profits and history of the hospital. . .CANNOT wait TO GET INTO THE ARCHIVES. . .

Randdomocity rules so here you go, until I can update about my HELLISH last few weeks-

KIA- all set to graduate and all set at school next year, I am so freaking proud of my son!

Zach- BEST man at a wedding this past Sunday. . .he had an AMAZING time, wore a tux and made a toast that made people cry! I always knew he had it in him. . .having him look so happy and proud of himself is a wonderful thing

Cocoa- What a beasty! She has such the clothes attitude lately, but then, she goes all tomboy on me. . .so that will be an interesting thing to watch, and suffer through. She is doing so well at school- and has actually been reading at a 2nd grade level since February.

Precious- he is doing very well, now that he is in school all day. He is doing dance this summer, and it should be a great time for him, as dancing is one of his favorite things to do!

Butter- Milking a cold for all it is worth right now, so sad to see! He has been doing so well in school and I am really happy with how well he has adjusted- he is in the talent show doing a comedy act. . .wonder where he gets that from!

Muffin-Well, he is all set for camp- not a moment too soon- as he is hating school so much now. . .hope next year is better

We have a great weekend planned- beach if it is nice, home fun if it is not. . .indoor picnics are GREAT in May:)

Oh, and yes, an Obama rant is on its way. . .;)

Mother's Day from an Uber Mother. . .

In honor of All Moms on Mother's Day - Words filled with wisdom By Erma Bombeck
When the good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of "overtime" when the angel appeared and said, "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one."
And the Lord said, "Have you read the specs on this order? --
She has to be completely washable, but not plastic; Have 180 moveable parts . . . all replaceable; Run on black coffee and leftovers; Have a lap that disappears when she stands up; A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair; And six pairs of hands...
The angel shook her head slowly and said, "Six pairs of hands . . . no way."
"It's not the hands that are causing me problems," said the Lord. "It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have."
"That's on the standard model?" asked the angel.
The Lord nodded.
"One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say, 'I understand and I love you' without so much as uttering a word."
"Lord," said the angel, touching His sleeve gently, "Come to bed. Tomorrow . . ."
"I can't," said the Lord, "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick . . . can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger . . . and can get a nine year-old to stand under a shower."
The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed.
"But tough!" said The Lord excitedly. "You cannot imagine what this mother can do or endure."
The angel asked, "Can it think?"
"Not only think, but it can reason and compromise," said The Creator.
Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. "There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told You You were trying to put too much into this model."
"It's not a leak," said the Lord, "It's a tear."
"What's it for?" asked the angel.
"It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness and pride," The Lord replied.
"You are a genius," said the angel.
The Lord looked somber.
"I didn't put it there," he said.

State of the Race Union

So-

I would guess that by now, many weeks since the "Race Speech" that many of the supporters for the conversation suggested by Obama, this important dialogue between the races, have noticed that there are serious issues to be dealt with before we can even sit down at the table.

A no holds barred discussion will not be possible, here is why;

As a Zionist as well as a Jew, I am used to the contradictions that have presented themselves over the last few weeks, and, well, recent events with my 18 year old son make this conversation. . .interesting.

Some background- many of my family have intermarried across religious and racial lines. My aunts, well 3 of them, have Black husbands (not African American, my uncles self identify as Black men) and their children are interracial AND some are being raised Jewish. I married a Catholic upper crust young prince (really, they have the papers to prove their claim to. . .FRENCH royalty, so you know, it is not really royal, but it used to be) so it is all pretty intermixed.

So, KIA is 18, and approaching his first election, and well, the events of the last few weeks have shaken up the political scene, have they not?

Louis Farrakhan? NOI and its screeds against Jews and the Jewish religion? Gutter religion, and plotting against . . .what, everything. The statements that JEWISH doctors were deliberatly infecting Blacks with AIDS (Cokely. . Chicago, Wright affliated, google it) and for a quick reference, hit the ADL website's documentation on the low points in the speeches of Farrakhan over time. I am NOT getting any sort of reconciliation vibe off either him or Wright.

If you do follow up on the above; Ask yourself, as a Jew, do I really have the problem with conprehending the situation? Do I? Apparently, I do- I am not only vilified by these controversial people, I am expected to look past it, or worse, I am told that I JUST DO NOT GET IT. . .cause, well, you know, I am A kike, blood sucking Jew, Yid, or in the unforgettable Jesse Jackson moment- Hymie, with relatives in Hymietown, oh yeah, I was just there last summer. . . so how is that dialogue gonna happen again, with me having to keep my mouth shut, or worse, be told that I have no right to comment, because, again, I do not get it, and if I do complain, I am a racist Jew pig.

Is your head about to explode? Can you imagine telling your adult child to just ignore the people surrounding someone wanting to be president, who speak in vile ways about his religion and his culture. . .but yet, that is pretty much the response. Just ignore it, or worse yet, it is not really all that important, after all Wright is not running for president. . .pay no attention to the men behind the curtain.

Really Reverend? Obama?

Mocking impersonations of "European American" speech? No problem, all in good fun! Continuing to support the antisemitism of Louis Farrakhan. . .okey dokey. . .BUT if you, the general public or anyone questions the disconnect between such statements and the notion of equality and fairness. . .THEN you are a defacto racist. . .because to question the statements of Wright is to question the Black church. . .which is not for YOU PEOPLE to understand.

Yet, when it began to upset some of the people who took offense to being accused of supporting the plot to infect Blacks with AIDS, and the concerns that Obama himself voiced during his speech about alienating the lower class, sometimes equally disadvantaged whites with assumptions about their worldview, you know, how they are all racists if they complain about their situations and wonder if they should be included in the plans to help the less well off. . . but in stunning form of missing an opportunuity, Obama dismisses the chance, and instead dismisses them as bitter and clinging. . . "they" the unwashed masses, are not to be deterred from wanting their old time religion and their fire arms. . .Oh, Obama, what a missed chance to really start this conversation off, you missed the teachable moment. . .or did you? Are you interested in the conversation you claim to want, or was that just the politics of that day, that time?

Are you really ready to start this? You could not bring yourself to address the apparent disconnect between the man you felt was like a father and his ummm, er "politics" he holds, until he insinuated that you agreed with him. . .while sitting in the Black church we, those of us on the outside, do not understand.

Do NOT get me wrong, I was rooting for you-Obama, not because you are Black, but because you seemed like you could break through the bs. . .but you got caught up in it. . .and instead of rising above it, you started messing up. . .and playing along.

Hope is not color specific. . .my children have the audacity to hope. . .that will not be detered by the the color of their skin, they will be aided by the content of their character. . .I believe in the dream, do you?

Are you ready to take on white resentment at always being called racist when questioning certain controversies? Are you ready to handle being called oreo, or a sell out or any other the other insults, that can and do shut down so many of these attempts? Are you ready to stop thinking for us all, and meet this head on, as it plays out. . .can you handle the unscripted discussions and the complete lack of sound bites, in favor of honest and painful discussions? Are you ready to confront those that want the anger to last, so the hate does? Did you get any sense of love or respect for "European Americans" from Wright? I do not have to understand the Black church in order to understand dismissive and hateful stereotypes. . .

So, Obama, while you and Michelle may think that us unwashed masses are "tired" of this discussion. . .under the umbrella, we are STILL interested. . .

"Detractors"

http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/A/ALASKA_GOVERNOR_BABY?SITE=WIMIL&SECTION=HOME&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT


Yeah, there will be those that will tell all mothers of special needs kids ESPECIALLY, that they belong in the home, not off earning money for their child's future!

Dammit-

When you get that dx, when you realize that the child you are having will probably never leave home, that you will die and not be sure that the child will be taken care of, when you UNDERSTAND that life costs, and death will rob your special needs child of their caregiver. . .what Rainmom would NOT want to work and get things paid for?

In a completely perverse way, gender roles are so unforgiving. . .you HAVE to take care of this child. . .but HOW? What is the best way to ensure the future of your special needs kid? Stay at home and take care of them physically, or get out there and work, save what you can and plan a future for them. . .either way, it is weird that special needs moms almost get a pass that typical moms do not. . .as in OH, yeah, you HAVE to stay home with THAT child. . .grrrrrr

All I know is that to not work means that I will leave that much less for him after I am gone, and to work now it to care for him in the future.

ROCK on Alaska Special Needs MOM!