More vacay fun. . .

Magic and Amazement. . .

At the butterfly house

Precious

Bedtime Stories

On the Ferry- Butter

Cocoa's first Ferry ride. . .:)

What a Vacation!

Here is where we went. . .and what an amazing time. . .

The place we stayed was NOT as bad as I thought, but not as good as I was hoping, but in the end it did not matter. . .because we had a great time!

We spent a TON of time on the island, rode the ferry over, which Precious LOVED. . .and ate a ton of fudge. . .oy!

It was the perfect way to spend time together, and the place I stayed made it easy to tuck the kids in and relax on the porch with my thoughts. . .and a glass of wine. . .very very cool.

One of the coolest places we went was here, and if you get the chance to go. . .DO IT:)

Other than some rain. . .which was really no big deal, we had a perfect time, lazer light shows @ dusk, water fun, and walks on the beach together. . .

But I am glad to be back. . .and so are the kids. . .

HOME!

Safe and sound. . .blog about all later. . .:)

To weird for under the umbrella. . .so

http://politicallyincorrectcheatingdiscuss.blogspot.com/

is the place to gleefully autopsy my marriage, divorce and life after the fact. . .

Why it happened. . .it had nothing to do with you

Your dad and I were married for a long time, and I can honestly tell you that I love him- he was one of my best friends, and I would not have had you without him. . .but

I can also tell you that I tried so hard to keep Dad and I together- but he just did not want to stay with me- he found someone else to be with and no matter how hard I tried, he would not stay. I had only so much to give, but when you dad asked me to allow him the time to see if his new relationship was the "real thing" and wait for him to stop being confused, I had no choice but to say no, and he left.

I did not expect him to leave you behind with me. . .I never thought he would do that, and when he left you with one of the women he met on the Internet on the 4th- I am sorry, but I had to make sure you were not used in such a way EVER again.

I am sure you will understand someday, and maybe, just maybe, he will wake up some day and realize what he has lost. . .and try to get it back. I cannot promise you that he will, but age and time have a way of making things more clear, and all I can do is to try to keep the door open for you all. . .so that if you do want to make any relationship with him, you can.

Am I angry? VERY very much so- but only at him, not you all. I have been proud to be your mom, I will continue to be proud, single mom or married. . .

Love you all. . .

Reflections on a failed marriage and a new family

Michigan Coast- July 2009



Dear Kids-



Soon, we will have some closure on the family situation- that is, we will be ending family life as you knew it, and move on to a new phase of our lives, a new family way.



We have talked over and over about how this is going to look- we really cannot be sure how this is going to work, and so many other factors beyond our control will have an impact- in short, a TON of unanswered questions. . .BUT



I DO have things to tell you, things that I can be 100% totally sure of,



I LOVE YOU ALL- and nothing at all will change that!



Older boys- I AM GOING TO BE FINE! There is no need to worry, you are who you are because I raised you to be strong and independent, because I am. . .there is no need to change any of your plans and you NEED to go and live your lives. . . Just like I am



Also- WE ARE GOING TO BE JUST FINE. . .totally fine. . .not a thing to worry about in that, I can get us through anything- even this, and I will.



In the coming weeks, I will post the process that led us to this point- so you understand how this all played out, how we got to this time, this place, and why we are going to now build a new family. . .



But for now- I love you, I will get you through this, and we will be just fine- Trust me.